Love Vs Friendship

Before starting, let me admit one thing. I may not be able to do justice to this article because of a very simple reason - i am not aware of both sides of the coin. Both the sides, i.e. love and friendship. Because i have always been on the friendship's side. Therefore, my views are bound to favour friendship.....
"Friendship can survive without love but love cannot survive without friendship"

This is just one of the many love vs friendship quotes which generally signify the supremacy of friendship over love. But truth is something else. In real life, if one has to chose between love and friendship, former is the choice generally. Let me express my thoughts with the help of a story. There were three friends - Rohan, Neha and Ekta. Their friendship meant the world to them. They would spend a lot of time together, chat a lot, roam around and most importantly they would share each and every moment of their lives together. One day they came across Arjun, a cool and exuberant guy. Ekta instantly fell for Arjun. Later on she came to know that for some reasons she and Arjun would never be together. But still, her liking for him never faded, her feelings for him never faded. When Rohan and Neha did not approve of Arjun, she started finding faults in them. When Rohan and Neha did not approve of Ekta's growing liking towards a person who would never be with her, she started finding faults in them. And when Arjun didn't approve of Rohan and Neha's disliking towards him, she again starting finding faults in them. Slowly and gradually Ekta started distancing herself from Rohan and Neha. Ultimately Rohan and Neha decided to give up and let the things be the way they were....

What i inferred from this story is when a person is madly in love with someone, his thoughts get so intricately entwined with the other person that he completely loses the ability to think rationally. He doesn't see any flaws in his love. He thinks the way his love thinks. He unknowingly starts distancing himself from rest of the world. And in the whole story, friendship takes a backseat. When your love doesn't approve of your friends, it is seen as concern and when your friend doesn't approve of your love, it is seen as "lack of understanding". Many people might not agree with this but this is what i have observed in three years of my college life. Its very easy to say that friends are and should be more important than love. But then, who follows it....


4 comments:

  1. Its not love if it doesn't approves of your friendship! Love must have transparency and understanding. Its a togetherness of whole life. But sadly, in today's world, college guys take love so casually. They take it as a thing of pride. Having gf/bf is seen as one of the biggest achievement of life. So i would say its just the way people see the things now, otherwise, loving someone for a lifelong relationship based on great trust and understanding is a perfect and everlasting feeling. And both friendship and love are at the same level. Both are necessary feelings of life :)

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  2. nice thought ankul...but not everyone thinks that way...

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  3. radhika you were not aware of both sides of the coin before writing this blog...i hope knowing the other side of the coin you will surely write a blog on that.....

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  4. ideally there should be a balance between both the sides of coin as both r equally imp. in diff. phases of life ... sadly, young college students take it as fun but one realises its significance later in life...

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