Understanding "Misunderstandings"

At times we don't like certain things about the people who are close to us. But instead of sorting out things, we bury them somewhere inside us. The truth is that they never get buried and create further misunderstandings....
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Some time back, even i experienced something like this. There was a time when i disliked certain things about one of my close friends. I would get hurt by so many things so often. I never said anything and decided to forget everything. But nothing was forgotten. Slowly and gradually when i realised that my disliking was growing more and more, i decided to say everything little thing i had in my heart. And then, i realised that all such misunderstandings were circumstantial and she actually never ever intended to hurt me. By saying things i had inside me, not only our misunderstandings got cleared, we even became closer friends. Had i said everything earlier, i wouldn't have held so many grudges against her because of so many misunderstandings.

Likewise, i see people around me who do not sort out misunderstandings between them and their close friends or even family members. They do not realise that such things always prick somewhere deep inside their hearts. When a number of such incidents take place, they start disliking each other and slowly and gradually start distancing themselves from each other. And i feel that why don't they just say everything. When they know that staying quiet is definitely not going to help, why don't they try saying! I truly believe that for strong relation its important to appreciate each other but its even more important to criticise each other and sort out things, especially when you see the other person as a life long companion....



4 comments:

  1. u were lucky enough that speaking out ur heart helped u develop a stronger bond but most of the times it is quite better that u remain quiet and let the circumstances and situation guide u........

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  2. f u think that the other person holds an important place in ur life, then i feel it is better to speak ur heart and sort out all issues rather than keeping things in ur heart...

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  3. but what if speaking out can hamper the relationship?
    if the person is important i feel it is better to accept it the way rather to make any amendments........

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  4. its not about making amendments...but about clearing "misunderstandings"...

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