Wedding freaks!!

Yesterday I read a status message by one of my classmates in DCE. It said, "It is not advisable to go to a family marriage if you are hovering anywhere near the age of 23 unless you are ready to get married there and then!!". Then, I realised it happens with a lot of people!! Since this message came from a guy, it can be understood that for girls, the situation is further difficult. Once you are a graduate, the whole family starts talking about your marriage. The family functions start freaking you out. You feel scared when some unknown aunties stare at you. You feel apprehensive when you are introduced to some never seen before relatives. Suddenly your good girl/good boy image starts creating problems for you. Suddenly the thoughts of getting married start haunting and daunting you. Saying that doesn't mean that i disrespect or disregard marriage. Marriage is a big responsibility. Elders should understand that it's not a nursery admission that must be done when you reach a particular age!! One shouldn't get married because one has to get married one day, until and unless one is ready to face the drastic changes in his/her life post marriage. Moreover, i find the concept of arranged marriages quite obscure. I don't understand how two people decide to become life partners just by looking at each other and exchanging a few short conversations. These days, arranged marriages fail so often, all because  of some common relatives who proudly bring two wrong people together. Somehow, it's easier to convince the close family people regarding your unwillingness to get married. But who can stop the relatives who are never short of "ideal" marriage proposals!! Needless to say, relatives scare me more!! One of the comments in the whole status message discussion was "I am surprised girls don't get kidnapped!!", and so am I...  :D

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  1. rads to badi hogai...badi badi baaten karne lagi..ab tumhari shaadi kab ho rahi h???tum bhi to 23 ki ho gai..;)..:)

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    1. I am not 23 yet.. :P And i won't marry that soon!!

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    2. i know you won't marry soon...but your soon will gona be sooner than mine..;)

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    3. Hmm.. maybe.. but you never know!! ;) ;)

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  2. Nice read, Radhika..
    but love marriages also fall apart..
    it is best to take an informed decision in both cases.
    you are tagged, btw..do have a look..

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    1. Thanks Uma.. even love marriages fall apart.. true..
      Will definitely take up the tag!!

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  3. Agree with u...In India Marriage is always overrated....you have to 'get married' by a certain age ...later it is, more ppl start cooking stories abt u....

    But u know, arranged marriage concept is weird but even love-marriages go haywire...so we cannot generalize...

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    1. True.. we cannot generalize.. which further adds to the confusion regarding love and arranged marriages(which one is better/safe)..

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