It's a girl...

I have a younger brother. Around twenty years back when he was about to enter this world, I am sure my grandparents must have had apprehensions regarding the gender of their second grandchild. In older days, having a son was extremely important. Birth of a girl child was hardly celebrated. Daughters were supposed to get married and engage themselves in the household work whereas sons were supposed to provide the financial support to the family. For the parents, son was meant to be their budhaape ka sahara(support during their old age). Therefore, people who had two(or more) daughters generally decided to have third child hoping it would be a son. Times are much different now. Girls are much more independent and ambitious these days. And therefore I am surprised to see that people still live with this mindset, and not just the uneducated ones!! I have seen some well educated people opt for  third child("son"). There are numerous examples of sons who have literally deserted their parents to settle abroad and lead an independent life. There are some in my close family circle as well. Such sons provide a good financial support to their parents despite being far. However they don't realize they are depriving their parents of all the love and care that is no less important than the financial support. One day i was chatting with a friend at work. Her mother is a social worker and regularly visits a particular old-age home. In that old-age home, there are a lot of elderly people who have been abandoned by their sons. Some people are regularly visited by their daughters. Saying that doesn't mean that all the sons neglect their parents. But these days even daughters are capable of fulfilling the responsibilities that sons were expected to fulfill in older times. Therefore, I completely disagree with the concept that only sons can support parents and hence it is extremely important to have a son. There is nothing wrong in having third child(err... maybe given our ever growing population, it is).  However, the mindset that compels people to have third child is wrong... 

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  1. Agree with your views, Radhika as girls are equally or more capable:)

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    1. Thnx a lot! I am glad this message came from a man..

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  2. I agree with the views.Well put.:-)

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  3. I hate the stereotyping and the injustice that girls/girl child is entitled too.

    And there are many guys who think this way. I'm very much feminist :-)

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    1. @Rahul, Haresh: Thankfully people of today's generation are very broad-minded and do not have a regressive thinking.. Thanks for liking the post!

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  4. Partly true.. They didn't prefer girl, especially middle class and poor families, bcoz of dowry problem. Things have changed.. there are lots of working opportunities for everyone, and so people now don't care about gender.

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  5. Agree...This craziness for son is still in this age society as well....mindsets are changing but very sloooowly....
    Our society's conditioning is so weird that daughters come to visit their old parents in old age homes but cannot take them to stay with them....ladki ke ghar kaise reh sakte hai!!! don't u think so....
    I have done a post few months back abt how some educated lot reacted when my dot was born....
    http://nibedita-bose.blogspot.in/2012/01/koi-baat-nahinlakshmi-aayi-hai.html read it and lemme know ur views...:-)

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    1. I agree.. it's only bcz of orthodox mindset that staying with daughters is not considered good... I have left a comment on your post.. was a nice read!

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    2. All said and done , it was actually a friend who actually made me see your inspiration behind this article.... Classic example of "Chirag taale andhera" (unlike you, im not going to give out the English version of this , doesn't really captures the essence)

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    3. Thanks a lot Sumit. Yes, it is quite disappointing that well educated people of such a stature think like that.

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