Being Silent...

This post is inspired by the post Keeping quiet is an art.. by Uma.

As a student, I was quite reserved. Academically I was an above average student, however I hardly participated in classroom discussions. At times I used to have questions in my mind. But, out of hesitation I used to stay quiet. In a way, I was glossophobic. During my college life, I managed to overcome the fear of speaking. I still remained reserved though. However, this time the reason for my reserved nature was not glossophobia but something else. Currently I am working as an R&D engineer in an MNC. Sometimes we go for tea/coffee breaks in a group of four-five people. Generally, I am the most quiet or least speaking person. Rather than speaking or putting forward my opinions, I prefer listening to the thoughts and opinions of other people. I do not doubt my speaking skills at all. However, at times I refrain from speaking much so as to hide a part of me from the people around me. I take time to open up to new people and cannot reveal my true self until and unless there is a level of comfort with the other person. 

Due to all the reasons mentioned above, I feel being silent or less talkative has become a part of my personality(not applicable when I am with my close friends, cousins or family). Hence, being quiet comes easy to me. Moreover, it has enabled me to become a good listener. Some of my close friends are my complete opposites. There are times when they do all the talking and I just listen without getting bored. So for me, interrupting the other person is completely out of question. Also, I feel two people share a good relation if they can sit together silently, without finding the silence awkward. Silence is important for thought process and introspection. Understanding and respecting silence is equally important as well.   

P.S. I think "Talking is an art" would be a useful post for me as I feel I have already mastered the art of keeping quiet!!

13 comments:

  1. knowing when to remain silent and being comfortable in a atmosphere devoid of mundane noises as much as an art as speaking effectively is.
    Nice to know another aspect of your personality, Radhika :-)

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    1. I agree... and knowing when not to remain silent is also important... Thanks!

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  2. Radhika you are among the few who follow the law of nature to hear more and talk less as we have two ears and just one tongue:)

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  3. Being silent and observant has its own virtues, Radhika:)

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    1. True.. There is a saying: "The less you speak, the more you are listened to".

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  4. You're not alone. I'm a quiet person too. I seldom talk when I'm in a group. Some people thought that I'm snotty but actually I'm not, I just don't like to talk much unless when I'm with my family.

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    1. It happens with me quite often, so I can understand very well... There is another saying, "Smart people speak less"!! ;)

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    1. Thanks! And welcome here.. :-)

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    2. Visit my blog if u have time.

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    3. Sure.. will definitely visit your blog!

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  6. Well, at times, it does help in refraining us from saying heinous things to people.

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