Love is blind... But can it be hopelessly blind???

Yesterday I was chatting with a close friend of mine. During our conversation we talked about our casual crushes and people for whom we were crushes!! I told her about how I liked one of my seniors in college as I found him very decent and polite. Since he already had a girlfriend, I never expressed my liking towards him, although given my cowardice, I wouldn't have tried even if he hadn't had a girlfriend!! I was pretty ok with it. She also liked a particular guy but when she discovered he was a heavy drinker and smoker, her liking faded. Basically we never liked any guy to the extent of going mad about him. Moreover, we never had any liking towards people who liked us, for xyz reasons. We both laughed over the fact that we never had any boyfriends maybe because we were too logical to fall in love!! 

Sometimes when people ask me whether I have a boyfriend or not they always expect an affirmative reply. Upon getting a negative reply, they give such perplexing looks as if having a boyfriend is the most obvious thing in the world, which surprises me!! When I see people around me in complicated relationships, I feel being single is far better!! Personally I find three kinds of relationships obscure:

1. A guy develops feelings for a girl. Later on he discovers she already has a boyfriend but instead of controlling his feelings the guy goes mad about her!! His feelings further intensify, which is basically a consequence of loving madly and blindly. Ideally he should move on and look for someone else!!

2. Two people get into a relationship despite knowing they do not have a future together. Reasons for not having a future together can be many, e.g. different castes and therefore no family acceptance, mismatch of horoscopes and so again no family acceptance, unequal financial conditions and hence again no family acceptance, long-distance, higher studies, etc etc.  

3. This one is similar to the above mentioned category, difference being the two people are ready to fight with their families and world to stay together. Sounds good, but I still wonder why people make their lives so  difficult and complicated by getting into such complicated relationships. Why not be in a relationship that won't have any such hurdles as options are always there!!

At this point, I am sure many people would disagree with me. There is a lot of difference between liking a person and falling in love. Liking people is easy, but for me it's a bit difficult to fall in love without keeping these things into consideration. People love with their hearts which is good, but applying a little bit of brain won't harm I guess!!

11 comments:

  1. I am as logical as you are and have pondered about complicated relationships too...guess that's why I did not fall in love :-)

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    1. You know while writing this post I was a bit hesitant thinking most of the people would disagree with me... now I feel so good to know that even you feel the same.. seems to be a virgo problem i guess.. ;) :D

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  2. After reading it,I felt that your nickname,'logic' is quite apt.. I mean u leave no place/situation to apply it. Although, its pretty good to do so but once you find such a person whom u like a lot.. for whom you have some feelings, then in that case, certain hurdles are meant to come in between a relationship no matter how best you try to avoid them.. The best part is if the other person is understanding, cares about each other and is a bit practical to deal with the situation, them I am sure he will deserve his love no matter what happens.. To add on it, I would say this is LIFE.. nobody knows how it will turn upto as LOVE is not about getting everything , but its about making sacrifices.. !!!

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  3. I have seen that with time you realize that all madness and those stupid stuffs we do thinking that we are madly in love were of no good use. I love the line Tanuj said in previous comment- LOVE is not about getting everything , but its about making sacrifices. Very few people understand this thing. Love never demands, it is all about giving without expecting. Keep loving :)

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  4. Tanuj and Rebellious Submission: I completely agree with both of you.. Love is indeed about making sacrifices and I salute people who have the courage to face such hurdles and fight the world for their relationship...

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  5. i guess a conclusion cant be drawn on this...an outsider will always have lots of points to make..

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    1. It's a highly subjective topic after all, and therefore different people have different views regarding it..

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  6. Ah , nice post for a change!!Maybe Mr Right would walk into your life..soon:)

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    1. Thanks Mr. Rahul.. Hope so... Rest, time will tell!!

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  7. One would be lucky to get into a relationship where there are no opposition from parents :-) But then people still get into complicated relationships as you have mentioned in point 3, simply because it makes life meaningful to live with someone whom you really love than living with someone who makes life less complicated. Marriage is more about loving and understanding than conveniences. Years later one should not regret marrying someone whom one has no connection with but just made things less complicated, right? :-)

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    1. Agreed!! That's indeed a valid point...
      Some people manage to overcome those complications whereas some give up... I am among those who are too apprehensive about facing such complications, and I myself feel that's a weak part of my personality...

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