The Competition of Life...

Last week I watched Student of the year, a movie by Karan Johar. The story was ok. I really liked the songs and visuals. The movie ended with a nice message that said "Friends we make during our schooling and college are truly special and different from all other friends in our lives".

During 11th-12th, I had a very nice, close friend. We were in the same class, same bus and the same coaching institute. We used to sit together, eat together and study together. Despite being close friends, we always had this determination to outdo each other in academics. Be it our school exams or coaching tests, we always wanted to score more than one another. Beating other people didn't really matter much. So apart from being friends, we were each other's competitors too. After 12th, we gave many entrance exams to get selected in a good engineering college. In all the entrance exams, my ranks were way better than hers. So much so that getting into the same college was completely out of question. I decided to join a popular engineering college in Delhi whereas her rank was not good enough to get her, her choice of stream in that college. The period of 15-20 days between our results and beginning of college life was quite strange for both of us. We hardly spoke to each other. We both had worked very hard for two years and we never really expected such disparity in our ranks. At times I used to feel like calling and motivating her, but the thought of being misunderstood always stopped me. She could have thought that saying things was very easy for me as I was not in her place and therefore I refrained from saying anything. And then one day we met at a metro station. Both of us were going to our respective colleges. It was my first working day whereas her session had already begun few days earlier and I was not aware of it. We spoke for a few minutes and then moved towards our metros that were in opposite directions. It was a weird feeling. For two years we were always together in whatever we did, wherever we went, and all of a sudden we were going in different directions. We were standing on the opposite platforms and her metro came first. She waved at me before boarding the metro and even after her boarding we kept looking at each other till we were not completely out of each other's sight. After that day, we again started calling and talking to each other. Our colleges were different, streams were different, friends were different and we were no more competitors.

She is still one of my closest friends and we still talk to and meet each other regularly. Our fields are very different now and we often discuss and appreciate the developments in each other's careers. When I look back, I feel glad that we were able to overcome that momentary strained phase in our friendship. Competing with your best friend can have two consequences: The friendship either breaks completely or becomes unbreakable. It just depends on what choice you make. I am glad we chose the latter!! 

6 comments:

  1. Hey Logic.. :) , I am glad that you got her back because life at times doesn't give you second chances.. atleast not for me.. though the cause was a little different.. But yeah.. truly speaking,friends are real gems of life..and your blog is totally cool.. ;)

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    1. Thanks a lot Tanuj! Well.. at times life gives us second chances but we fail to avail them.. so it depends on both us and our luck.. in any case such experiences teach us a lot!

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  2. I am glad too that you found your friend inspite of the rough patch. Cheers to good friendships!

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    1. Thanks a lot Uma... I am proud of the fact that we gave our friendship another chance and now it has become strong as ever!! :-)

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  3. Very well articulated. I totally get what you have written here, sounds so familiar! :) Glad that you and your friend didn't end up losing the friendship :)

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    1. Thanks a lot NPARI.. and welcome to my blog!! :-)

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